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I took this silly little quiz on facebook. It was called “What’s Your Parenting Style?” I got the result “Extreme Granola Parenting.” It then went on to use the term “cave-mom” and other various negative descriptors such as hostile. It was fairly cute, but come on now. (and yes, I know it does not matter. It is just a facebook quiz…)

But it made me think. How do people see me? Does that fact that I wear my baby, nurse, cloth diaper, co-sleep, birthed Eden at home and take the kids to a naturopath instead of a pediatrician change people’s opinion on me? Do I care?

I was not always “crunchy.” In fact, I was very mainstream before becoming a mama. I just kind of went with the flow. I didn’t bother to question much. But I don’t think I would have come up with a silly little name like “Cave-Mom” for someone who was different from me. I just wish people could understand that not everyone thinks the way they do and that it’s okay! We’re all unique and that’s a big part of what makes this world so beautiful.

So I may wonder if my parenting changes how people see me, but I guess I don’t care. I am doing what feels right for my family. I have made educated choices about parenting and I am happy with them. I am not, however hostile towards any other mama who made an educated choice to do something different than what I chose.

Well it’s time to hit the rock (I am a cave-mom, right?) I’d better find my baby and nurse her in my bed while cuddling my two year old who sleeps there as well and my husband. Then I’ll wake up and put her in the sling and start my prehistoric day šŸ˜›

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Eden came into the world with full force early this morning.
Warning- this has all the details, so if you don’t want them, don’t look

Last night I was having a few contractions, kind of sporadically and not really time-able. I tried to go to bed, but I kept waking up with what I thought was an upset stomach. I kept trying to go to the bathroom and couldn’t…

About four I woke up and noticed that the “tummy pain” had moved to my back and was quite strong. I got on contractionmaster.com to time what I now realized were contractions. The first three were eight minutes apart. The fourth was less than three minutes after the third… and strong. It was 4:43 am.I knew this was it. I woke up Nick. I had a few more really strong contractions and about 5:00 decided to call my midwife, my parents and Alex (my wonderful friend and doula.) My midwife, Amy said to see how it went for an hour and give her a call back. I couldn’t get a hold of my mom or Alex. After a bit, I did get ahold of everyone. A little after 5:30, I realized that there was no waiting an hour to call Amy back… this little girl was coming – and fast. I think I had Nick call, I don’t really remember. Amy said she’d be there in about an hour. I worried Eden would get there before Amy!

My folks showed up about 6:00 to get Keagan. I was trying sooo hard not to scare him. I really needed to vocalize at this point, so as not to scare him I tried to sing “How Great is Our God.” He loves that song. It lasted for half a contraction and then I lost it and moaned. Right then, Grandma and Grandpa showed up. Keagan cried. Nick ran him out the door… the contraction ended and I chased them all so I could hug Keagan and tell him Mama was okay. Apparently, he was fine, but my poor dad cried.

About this time, I started shaking and threw up. I knew this meant I had to be close and worried again that no one would be there to help. I had Nick call Amy and thankfully, she was close. She got to the house between 6:20 and 6:30 I would guess… When she settled in, Amy checked me and I was at six centimeters. I was so shocked, I just knew I had to be closer than that. I had to use the bathroom, so I went to the toilet. I couldn’t pee, but the bath looked appealing. I had Nick start it for me and he went and told Amy I was getting in. As the water was still running, Alex showed up. Not too long after that, my water broke.

Then I couldn’t help it anymore. My body was pushing. But I went poo in the tub a little bit with the pushing, so I thought it was just really intense need to use the bathroom… I got out of the tub as fast as I could to try to use the bathroom… and soon realized that it was not that, it was baby! Her head was part way out of me and I was sitting on the toilet! So there I pushed. I stood up after her head was out and gave another push, and Amy guided her into my arms. There she was! My beautiful little girl! It was 7:14 am, 17 minutes after my water broke and about 45 min from when I was dilated to six.

It took a moment to sink in and then I saw my wonderful husband’s face. He was so happy… he had tears in his eyes. It hit me then. She was really here. We enjoyed a few minutes as a family before I birthed the placenta, then we made our way to the bedroom and just enjoyed one another.

Eden took to the breast right away, having three successful nursings before 10:30 am. She’s a hungry girl!

Home birth was so empowering… beautiful… real…and full of God’s love. It was the perfect way to overcome all the pain associated with Keagan’s birth. I can’t explain how much better natural childbirth was for me than hospital birth….

Keagan loves his “BABY!!” and is trying very hard to be soft with her. Though, being 23 months old that isn’t the easiest of tasks for him. He really wants to cuddle her nonstop.

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Things have been nuts for us. We couldn’t stand the wait until the first for our new place to open up. The neighbor situation just got worse and worse and we were not comfortable any longer. We didn’t feel safe and we were not sleeping. SO until our new place opens up, we’re staying with my folks (VERY nice of them!) But it’s hard because the three of us and two large dogs are in one small room. Even in those conditions, sleeping on a not so comfy futon, we’re all sleeping much better.

We’re about a week away from moving (YAY!) and we can’t wait to settle into our new home.

We’ve decided as a wonderful way to have a “housewarming” in our new place, we will be having a homebirth instead of birthing in the birth center. We’re still with the same great midwife, but we’re planning on staying home. We’re very happy with this choice!

Keagan is doing well. Poor guy has an infection in each ear and away from his home and most of his stuff and is still staying cheerful (most of the time!) He’s a great kid. We’re very blessed to have such a sweet boy.

Well, off to the old house to pack. Fun fun fun!

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So it is official. Our neighbors have driven us out of our home. We’re moving March 1st. We don’t have a place yet, but do to some violent acts I’d rather not describe, we know we have to leave.

March 1st is roughly one month from my due date.Ā  So IĀ  am going to be uber pregnant and moving with a toddler. Eeek! This also means that I have to start packing up the house again soon. We JUST moved in… well five months ago but still.

Otherwise, life is good. Keagan’s had a fever, poor thing, but he is not showing any other signs of being sick. I am not sure what that’s about, but I hope he gets better soon. Besides being sick, he is doing so well. He’s really into learning his letters. (I obviously decided that it was okay to work with him on them) He asks to “Do letters” all the time. He’s even reading a few words. I know I sound like a loon or else super boastful, but he really is starting to read. I am proud of him, but in awe. Who knew my 21 month old was so smart? (hehe this is probably totally normal and I am just too proud a mama to know better)

We’re doing some co-sleeping again. He goes to bed in his bed and I am too tired to try to convince him to stay there when he wakes up in the middle of the night, so he’s usually doing about three hours in our bed. But we won’t have space for both when Eden gets here. It’s only a full. We hardly fit now. I wish we could all pile in there. I am not sure how to handle that. I don’t want to kick him out of his safe spot, but I am sure going to want the little one right by the breast. I don’t want to have to get out of bed several times a night when I could just roll over and nurse her all cozy in bed. Dang it, people are going to know that I really just practice attachment parenting out of laziness! Kidding….mostly. šŸ™‚

I felted some sweaters to make into soakers, shorties and longies for both kids (cloth diapering stuff for those who don’t know) I just have to get to it. My hubby wants to help too. I find that super cute. šŸ™‚

I haven’t been totally ignoring my sewing by any means. Keagan wore a new pair of pants I made him today. He loves those pants… both pairs I’ve made for him. Probably because they are tie-dyed and colorful. That, and they fit right. He has no butt and most pants fall off of him.Ā  But these I made smaller up top to accommodate his “no butt syndrome.”Ā  One of these days I really will get to posting photos of all this stuff. I’ve done so many fun little projects and I want to share šŸ™‚ When I have some time.

Time. Ugh. I should be using my time to pack all the stuff I just unpacked!
Someone wants to come here and pack for me, right? Pretty please?

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