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Not quite.

There’s a lot of talk about the “Proverbs 31 Woman” in Christian circles. How we should all try to be like her. She’s like the Martha Stewart of the Bible. Only more wholesome. And without insider trading and time in prison.

I know I lack in the department of all things domestic. So I took a look at what the Bible has to say about her last night: (Proverbs 31:10-31 from The Message paraphrase)

A good woman is hard to find,
and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve,
and never has reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously
all her life long.
She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,
and enjoys knitting and sewing.
She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places
and brings back exotic surprises.
She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast
for her family and organizing her day.
She looks over a field and buys it,
then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.
First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work,
is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,
diligent in homemaking.
She’s quick to assist anyone in need,
reaches out to help the poor.
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;
their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.
She makes her own clothing,
and dresses in colorful linens and silks.
Her husband is greatly respected
when he deliberates with the city fathers.
She designs gowns and sells them,
brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
Her clothes are well-made and elegant,
and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,
and keeps them all busy and productive.
Her children respect and bless her;
her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things,
but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
The woman to be admired and praised
is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.
Give her everything she deserves!
Festoon her life with praises!

That’s a lot to live up to. So I thought I’d take it one step at a time. A reoccurring theme in the passage is that she gets up early. So I thought I would give it a go. I am not a morning person by any means. But my husband has been asking it of me and I have been thinking I would love the time to myself before the kids were up… so this stuck out to me as a good place to start.

Well let me tell you, day one was not a success. Within thirty seconds of my leaving the bed, Keagan realized I was gone. (We practice the Family Bed.) I took him back to bed and told him he could be with Papa. He became hysterical. His screams woke his sister, who chimed in and soon we had a myriad of screaming voices echoing through our home. So much for up before the family.

So with screaming Eden in the sling and screaming Keagan on Nick’s lap now watching Kipper because I was bound and determined to make breakfast, I started boiling some water for quinoa. It’s something that I can make into both breakfast and lunch and that’s always good. So I start on the quinoa and Eden starts in on my breast while in the sling. Great one less screaming child. Maybe I can make this work. Keagan soon stopped screaming as well.

While rooting through the fridge for some veggies for Nick’s lunch quinoa, I bumped our only serving bowl off the counter. It tumbled to the floor into a thousand tiny sharp shards. Eden started screaming yet again at the sound of my bowl’s untimely destruction. Keagan started to scream at the sound of Eden’s screaming. I started to think the shards looked like a good tool for suicide. (kidding… please don’t call asking if I am “really okay.” haha)

Eventually, breakfast and lunch were made, the kids stopped screaming and we all got of the house on time. But my goodness. What a way to start my day.

I guess it takes some practice, luck and patience to be a “Proverbs 31 woman.” I hope she had days like this. It’s only fair, right? ๐Ÿ™‚


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Well I can’t believe that 2008 is coming to a close. It’s shocking really.

A lot has happened this year. When the year started, we were so afraid of having another baby after Keagan’s traumatic birth that we thought we’d never have one.ย  We thought we’d probably have the husband get the “big v” and think about adoption.ย  Thankfully, a friend convinced me to at least TALK with a midwife about the possibility of getting pregnant.ย  And I did. I talked to a wonderful midwife and we’re so happy we did. We talked about all that went wrong last time, and how to prevent it this time. The OBGYN group I saw was not about prevention at all… they only acted after something went wrong.

So after talking with the midwife, we decided to start to try to conceive. We thought it would take months -I was still nursing and my cycles were anything but regular. On the midwife’s recommendation, I picked up “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” (and happened to find it at Goodwill for $2! I love thrift shopping!)ย  and we got pregnant on the first cycle! Even the midwife was shocked to see how quickly I was pregnant!

So thanks to all of that, our sweet Eden will be here sometime near April 4th. And we are very grateful for that. This pregnancy has not been full of any of the problems I faced with Keagan’s. I am visualizing a wonderful, peaceful water birth in a birth center and feel that I will be able to achieve that. Andย  I think that Keagan will benefit greatly from having a sister to share his childhood with.

Another big change this year came after reading Shane Claiborne’s book, “The Irresistable Revolution.” It really changed how we thought about a lot of things. It’s from a Christian perspective, but I suggest it to anyone and everyone. It’s about humanity;ย  it’s about love; it is about how human beings should treat one another. It made me think about things I’d never considered before. Now, because of this book, I am not afraid of the homeless. I am not afraid to try and help people in need. We’ve also simplified our lives quite a bit. I’ve gotten really into thrifting after reading about how badly child laborers are treated. I don’t want to support the companies that hurt those kids, plus it is great knowing that I am reusing materials that could have otherwise been thrown away. It brought on a lot of changes for our family, all for the good. Whenย  a friend recommended it to be the first time, I was pregnant with Keagan and just didn’t have the attention span. I am glad I went back to it later.

My husband took a lower paying job this year, but it was a step in the right direction. He’s in a feild that he wants to be in, his job is secure, and he’s moving up quickly within his office. It was a scary choice to make, but it was the right one.

Keagan has changed so much this year. He was a baby when the year started. As the year closes, I have to admit that he’s much more of a little boy than a baby. He’s smart, funny and full of life. What more could a mama ask for?

We also moved this year. Our new home is much smaller, but much better suited for us. It’s kind of in the middle of nowhere, but that’s okay for now. We do toy around with the idea of living in Tacoma, where my husband works. I always thought I was a country girl, but more urban living really seems appealing to us right now. I think that is a change 2009 will bring for us.

All that said, I am ready for our new year and the many new challenges and changes it will surly bring. I am a little nervous about being a mama to TWO kiddos, but I think I am up to it. I kind of have to be, don’t I? ๐Ÿ™‚

I have quite a few goals for 2009

1. Read the Bible. All of it. It’s not as if I’ve never picked it up before, I’ve read most of it, many parts over and over again. But I want to read it all and I want to make sure I am doing it every day.

2. Get Organised! My dirty little secret (or not so secret if you know me in real life) is that I am a TERRIBLE hosuekeeper. I will not let this be the case anymore. I won’t! If anyone has any motivation and organisation tips, please let me know!

3. Quit being scared of my sewing machine! I KNOW I can use the thing. I am capable. I need to realize it.

4. Complete 40 craft projects. I love to craft. But I never do it, or I start and don’t finish. I want to do about one a week, giving my self space to take time off with the new baby and to have some projects that are bigger and therefore take longer. I am going to quit drooling over other people’s creations and make my own!

5. Get out more! I’ve been in mama isolation too long. I love my son, but I need to get out. With a second one coming, this is going to be even more important. I am to the point where I get out so rarely that I become awkward in social settings sometimes. EEK. I need to get out. With the kids or without.

6. Get back into my charity work. I was doing great for awhile, but the move, the pregnancy, the holidays etc all got in my way. But that’s no excuse. People are still hungry out there!

7. Find more natural learning activities for Keagan. He is so smart and he just eats this stuff up. I need to nurture his little mind.ย  I am not talking about flash cards and drilling information into him here. I am talking more about Montessori inspired, child-led activities that will help nurture his learning and creativity.By the end of the year, we will probably be working on a bit more, still child led as he will be preschool aged and we’re going to homeschool him. I have a feeling, however that it will be leaning to the side of unschooling, at least for his early childhood.

8. Be a better cook. I really fall short in most things related to home making, so this is another goal I am going to be working on. I hate processed foods, yet I get lazy and use them anyway. I’d like to stop that!

That’s all I can think of at the moment. Maybe I should stop it there for now anyway. Don’t want to set myself up to fail ๐Ÿ™‚

What are your goals this year? Have any tips for me to help accomplish mine?

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It is so easy to let Christmas become stressful.ย  I have many gifts left to make, I still have to take a photo of the little one for the Christmas cards and I don’t even know what I will be making and/or buying for some people. However, I am trying hard not to let it stress me out.

Instead of what I “have to do,” I want to think of the wonderful gift that was given to all of us that first Christmas. I want to take that that in, relax and enjoy the beauty of love and giving. How great the love of the Father truly is to give to us his only begotten son. What a wonderful, beautiful gift.

I saw this commercial the other day on TV. It said “Christmas costs less at Wal-Mart.” Christmas does not cost anything! Christmas is a beautiful gift! True gifts are free! You don’t HAVE to spend a bunch of money on “stuff.” That’s a choice. We’re trying to give simpler, more thoughtful gifts this year- and none of them are coming from places like Wal-Mart.

This season isn’t about “getting things done.” It’s about love. And I am trying hard to remind myself of that!

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My last blog got into the goals for life changes that I have.

The organization goals have not gone well. I need motivation… I need to see someone who has it together or something ๐Ÿ™‚ But it’s still there. I still want to accomplish this very badly. I hate clutter and my house is full of it despite the fact that I’ve donate several carloads of stuff to Goodwill. Most of what is laying around now is paperwork. I need a filing cabinet or something to keep all of it straight.

Other goals are going well. A friend and I started going out and feeding the homeless in our community. It’s been an amazing and rewarding experience. We’ve met people from all walks of life. People who are just down on their luck, former gang members, recovering addicts, current addicts and everything in between. It is really great to not only bless them with some food, clothes and bibles (when they’ll accept them) but it’s been amazing to just converse with these people. You can tell that a lot of them are not used to people even looking them in the eye and they really enjoy the conversation. It works both ways. I love getting to know them and being blessed by their stories. So many of them have strong faith even though things are rough for them. That is beautiful to see.

If anyone reading this is in the Puget Sound area and wants to help out, contact me. We can always use more sandwich makers, financial donations and helpers to pass out the lunches.

Otherwise, life is good. I’m starting an elimination diet tomorrow and though I am not thrilled to be so restricted, I am glad that I will be able to sort out some of my health issues. I know I am going to have a hard time coming up with new meals with it though… and three weeks without chocolate are going to be hard!

Keagan is doing well. I can’t believe he is 15 months old already! He is such a little boy these days. Hardly a baby at all anymore. I think he gets cuter every day ๐Ÿ™‚

Ok off to the store to buy foods without glutton, dairy, soy, egg, orange, corn and a bunch of other stuff.

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Little Man was sick last night. He wouldn’t sleep (even though he was beyond exhausted!) and he would not nurse, which for Keagan is REALLY strange. Then he developed a fever.

I hate when he gets a fever. Before he had a (probably febrile) seizure, if his fever was not out of control, I let it run its course. That’s healthier. A fever has a purpose and it is better for the body to let it do what it is supposed to do. I’d also rather not put drugs in my baby boy.

But the advice from his doctors is now to medicate at the first sign of fever so as to avoid another seizure. So we use Mortrin and also Tylenol if the Motrin is not doing it on its own.

Last night, when I realized he had a fever. It was three am. Neither of us had been to sleep yet and he was burning up. I searched the house and, of course we had nothing I could give him. So I had to go out at three am and buy him some motrin. He eventually fell asleep around 4:15 am, waking three times before he got up for the day a little after 9:30. As you can guess, I am tired.

This morning, he is miraculously better, praise Jesus! He is his normal self, insisting that he “Go walk” and yelling at his “gogs.” What a relief! Now I can not wait until naptime, so I can rest too ๐Ÿ˜‰

In other news, I’ve had a prayer answered. The other day, I was having a talk with the Lord. I was praying to Him and asking Him to please let me find a way to serve others. I often feel like I don’t know how I can be used and that what talents I have may not be useful. I told Him that I would love the be able to use my talents for loving others, but that I didn’t know how and I asked Him to show me.

Out of the blue yesterday, my phone rang. It was the Make a Wish Foundation and they asked if I could work with them on a project in my town for a little girl with muscular dystrophy. They want me to photograph the event they are setting up for her. I of course said yes.

I asked to serve and God showed me how I could. What a blessing! Now let’s all pray I don’t cry the whole time!

In other news, I am on a de-cluttering spree. I don’t know how we ended up with so much stuff, but a LOT of it is going down to the Goodwill. What a relief that will be!

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